The wisdom of King Solomon reveals to us that “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman keeps awake in vain” (Psalm 127:1). Too many times we put hope in vain things. We think that if we have a strong economy, powerful military, great healthcare, and a full social security fund we are living in the greatest nation in the world. However, the strength of a nation is not determined by any of these issues, but rather on whether or not it is abiding by the will of God. The security of our homes are also governed by the exact same standard. Living the American dream with financial stability, good schools, new cars, and a house in a good neighborhood has given a lot of families the false sense of security. If the foundations of everything that takes place in the home are not compliant with the will of God, then it is all in vain. The standard we live by and the standard by which we guard what comes into our homes must follow God’s mandate, or else Satan will slip in unnoticed and wreak havoc in the lives of our children, as well as in our marriages. He knows that if he can divide us, he can conquer.
We know that the example of what our children are seeing from us as parents is critical to preparing them for their own future battles. There are some crucial things that we must be instilling in them when they are very young. These are the building blocks of ensuring a future legacy of faithfulness in our families. Let me share just a few of these that mothers can be reinforcing in their daughters, and fathers can engrain in their sons.
Mothers, your daughter must know that (1) God knows them and they are wonderfully made (Psalm 139:1-3, 14). No matter what others may try to convince them of, they are precious and valuable in the eyes of God, even when they themselves don’t feel like it. (2) They must strive every day to be holy, pure, and modest (1 Timothy 2:9). The world around them will be trying to convince them to lower their standards as well as their self-worth. (3) Remaining pure has a powerful effect on the self-image of young women. As a part of this, your girls must understand (4) how to handle temptation, and that saying “No!” is not a sign of weakness, but one of strength. (5) Teach them to be soul winners at a very young age, following in the footsteps of Priscilla (Acts 18:24-26). (6) They must know the value and power of prayer (Philippians 4:6-7). (7) Teach them to be content with what God has blessed them with instead of focusing on what they don’t have (Luke 12:15). These and many other qualities will serve them well as mothers and wives one day.
Fathers, our sons need to develop an understanding that (1) their daily walk with God is what will guide them, especially in the difficult and trying times (Luke 9:23). A consistent relationship with God will provide the foundation for everything they will ever face. Our boys need to know how to take a stand in their homes (1 Corinthians 15:58), (2) How to be a true man of God by providing, protecting and honoring his family. He must know how to maintain his integrity (Proverbs 10:9), and to (3) respect his parents, others who are in authority over him, as well as the women who are in his life (Ephesians 6:1-3; Romans 13:1-2). (4) He needs to understand that success is not determined by how much money he makes (1 Timothy 6:10). Falling to the pressures of worldly success will almost always be the downfall of a man. (4) With a media that is saturated in sexual distractions, our young men must learn how to remain pure in mind, heart and body (2 Timothy 2:22). And above all things, he needs to be taught to be a soul winner (Acts 8:35), beginning with his own children (Ephesians 6:4).
Lists like these are nearly endless with qualities and characteristics that our children must make as a part of their daily lifestyles at a very young age. We want to encourage every father and mother to take advantage of every opportunity they have to grow closer to God, while at the same time, growing closer to each other. We appreciate KAIO for their vision of strengthen families by working with us in events such as our Legacy Family Camp. This camp is in its sixth year of encouraging families to be different than the world and to trust that God’s way is not just the only way, but that it is the best way. We hope to see you and your family at one of our camps in the future.